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NLP for Speakers and Trainers

Workshop in Singapore, June 22-24, 2011

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In the late 1960′s and early 70′s a communication model emerged that took a different look at the way we communicate. Not wanting this new model to fit into any existing discipline of psychology or therapy the founders, Richard Bandler and John Grinder called it Neurolinguistic Programming or NLP for short.

NLP is essentially a model of learning and demonstrates that we can model human thinking, behaviour and communication. Continue Reading »

Today is auspicious, being 1-1-11 and the first day of a new decade. As the year clicks over on the calendar it is customary to make New Year’s Resolutions and it is also customary to break them a few days later; which begs the question, “Can we change ourselves for the better?”

From a self-leadership perspective, the answer lies in the question – to change we must change our ‘selves’. ‘Self’  is a matrix of frames of mind which includes our self beliefs and values which make up our ‘identify’ and we tend to conform to our identity. In short you behave to meet your expectations of how your ‘see’ yourself. Continue Reading »

Imagine, if you will, long ago in a distant time at the dawn of civilisation, a group of people huddled around a fire, resting from the day and warming themselves from the night. The group is made up of several families, the young, the fit and the old all grouped together for mutual survival in a harsh environment.

 The evening meal had finished and a man stands, the group falls silent but with excited curiosity about what the man might say. The man, who was not old by our standards but had an appearance that communicated his wisdom and authority, starts to speak. He commences by taking his audience back in time to events that anchored them to deeds of courage, endurance and sacrifice. His words entrance each listener and carry them on a journey inside themselves so that they relive each story; even if they had not been present. Continue Reading »

Body Language and Micro Expressions

Have you seen the TV series ‘Lie to Me’?  Lie to Me is based on the work of Paul Ekman, a psychologist who has been a pioneer in the study of emotions and their relation to facial expressions. The show is compelling  because the main character can read when people are lying and appears to have an almost supernatural ability to read minds.

If you are in any kind of relationship; whether it be work, social or romantic the ability to read the other person’s thoughts and emotions about a topic will improve communication providing the skill is used ethically. Continue Reading »

“What I do with my hands?” is a question I have heard countless times from people wanting to improve their presentation skills.

In this short video I suggest that what to do with your hands is to make meaningful gestures.

The road to hell may be paved with good intentions but this is usually because of bad execution.

An intention is a frame of mind that drives action, when you have a clearly defined intention you gain a laser like focus and begin to take action. Effective execution occurs when intentions are transformed into well thought out behaviours.

People can often read your intentions but the world rewards your effective execution. Here are four questions to ask:

• What is it you want to do?
• What actions do you need to take?
• What will be the effect of those actions?
• Will these effects be in line with your intention?

Here is a short video on intentionality when it comes to public speaking:

The fear of public speaking can paralyse otherwise confident inviduals; in this video you will learn how to overcome that fear.

Footnote: Experienced NLP practitioners will recognise the embedded frames and state inductions in this video.

If there is any hypnotic trance state that is the ultimate one for a Neuro-Semanticist, it is the genius state. But no, the use of the word genius does not mean it is a hypnotic state for increasing your I.Q., that’s not the purpose of this particular trance.  Instead this is the induction into a state of being all there. It is a state of absolute focus on one thing. Normally, when you experience it, you are in a powerful state of concentration and absorption.  And when you are there people may think that you have really tranced out or they may think that you really have fabulous powers of focus and will power.  The genius state is a state wherein you are in “flow” and even better, you can turn the flow state on and off at will. Continue Reading »

Have you ever wondered how to plan a presentation or speech?

This short video will certainly help.