A lack of effective presentation skills (public speaking) will seriously harm your career prospects. Whether you are starting out in a company or are the CEO, you will be judged on your ability to present ideas in way that engage the audience.
But fear not! The ability to present or speak well is within everyone’s grasp. I have coached the most boring of CEO’s and the most timid of junior staff to speak and present with impact. Continue Reading »
Fear is a part of our every day lives and to achieve Self Leadership we must understand and work with our fears so that they do not prevent us achieving our objectives.
Or as the bard, William Shakespeare, put it, “Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we might win, by fearing to attempt”. Continue Reading »
As we start our new year fresh from the festive season, I am smiling
with curiosity, excitement, and eager anticipation of what 2009 will
look, sound and feel like.
Being a trainer focusing on communication and leadership, I travel to
different countries to run training programs. Continue Reading »
Coaching is the “in” methodology for personal development, but what exactly is coaching?
Here are a few definitions:
I am often asked whether we teach self leadership or NLP for kids; well as a father of a 3 yo (Tasha in photo) and a 1.5 yo ( Nathan) I am still getting my head around this (my wife Zurina is much better).
Today I read a great post by Jonathan Fields entitled, “Six timeless rules for my 6-year old daughter”, it made me laugh, it made me cry and made me wonder what I am in for as my daughter grows up!
Please read it and enjoy.
Have you ever said something or done something that you later regretted?
You have! Wow that’s good I thought it was just me 
To make error is human, we all screw up or we are not living.
As I write this blog I can still feel the fresh emotion of embarrasment from a recent mistake. Continue Reading »
(first published May 2005 as part of Self Leadership International’s monthly newsletter)
How’s your self-esteem today?
Are you feeling super-good about yourself?
Or do you feel like yesterday’s take-out food that has been left out in the rain?
Have you been judging or criticising yourself? Or have you been considering yourself less ‘worthy’ than someone else?
If you are not feeling super-good about yourself right now, or you know someone suffering from low self-esteem, then read on and discover the keys to building a healthy self-esteem. Continue Reading »
In coaching and NLP there is a presupposition (principle) that states, “behind every behaviour is a positive intention.”
What this principle enables the coach to do is to track back from a behaviour to the frames of mind (mental map) that generated it. By labeling the intention as ‘positive’ we do not make our client wrong and are therefore able to build rapport and leverage change. Continue Reading »
In this video I demonstrate hypnosis at a seminar. Hypnosis is a naturally occuring state of introspection; we all access hypnotic states each and every day. A trained hypnotist enables you to enter these states of introspection for the purpose of changing unconscious programming. The trained hypnotist uses specific language patterns which cause you to look inwards whereas stage hypnosis works on the fundamental principle of cause-effect with some simple social conditioning. Continue Reading »
I was asked to comment on the statement, “NLP is dangerous as it pigeon holes people and their behaviour.” The author of the statement feels as NLP is based on models and assumptions and a certain set of conditions then the user of that model cannot understand its limitations and the assumptions made.
It is a truism that people fear what they don’t understand and the statement show little or no knowledge of Neurolinguistic Programming or NLP for short.
NLP evolved as a model of language. The conditions of that modeling were the observation of effective therapists such as Virginia Satir, Fritz Perls and Milton Erickson. These therapists were able to create transformations in the thinking, feeling and behaviours of their patients through just conversation. Richard Bandler (a student of computer science) and John Grinder ( a linguistics professor) were curious about how changing language creates change and came to the conclusion that language is the software of the mind. Continue Reading »
