I have just returned to our home base of Singapore after a family trip to Berlin and Paris; here are a few things I learned whilst I was away:
Long haul flights are longer with kids. Remember the scene in Shrek where donkey asks, “Are we there yet?” I think this is because children live in the present and have little concept of delayed gratification.
Vomit is inevitable – Different food and new bugs will undoubtedly lead to the up-chuck. There is nothing more exciting than you and your child being covered in vomit on the Paris metro, so pack a change for you kids AND yourself.
It’s not your holiday – forget that museum or show you wanted to see, a holiday with kids requires them to be entertained first.
You get massive enjoyment doing the simple things when you see them through a child’s eyes.
Patience is like money, it can run out so make sure you have plenty of it.
Kids can be both ‘creatures of habit’ and remarkably flexible – Your family holiday will show you where in your life you need to develop flexibility.
A successful family holiday requires both parents to be a tag-team; with clear communication your marriage and your family will be strengthened.
I am just getting over the jet-lag and reflecting on the great memories we created together; perhaps you would like to share your tips and learning from travelling with kids?
Self-leadership is grounded in Cognitive Learning Theory (CLT), which states that we influence our world and our world influences us. The amount we influence depends on our perception of our own effectiveness or potential effectiveness; “I can do it” or “I can learn to do it”. CLT is also shows that we learn by observing others and by visualising successful outcomes.
The feed-forward and feed-back loops between our selves and the world explains how we program effective or limiting behaviours. Continue Reading »
This blog is a draft from my new book on self-leadership with Dr. Ana Kazan.
“Why should we not calmly and patiently review our own thoughts, and thoroughly examine and see what these appearances in us really are?”- Plato
Self-leadership begins with self-observation, which means noticing our thoughts, feelings and behaviours. Self-observation is like checking the instruments of an airplane to ensure it is flying level and on course. By checking in on ourselves we can make adjustments which allow us to be more purposeful and effective. Continue Reading »
One good idea well implemented could change your business, your relationships or your life. So why not invest 1-day for you and your team to be inspired, motivated and exposed to some of the best ideas to increase productivity, communication, sales, impact and effectiveness in 2011?
In Singapore, on Feburary 24, 2011 myself and eight of Asia’s top professional speakers will showcase cutting edge ideas and techniques to Raise your Game in 2011. You and hear; Tim Wade on ‘Productivity Mindset’, Tina Altieri on ‘Presenting to Win’, Santhanaram Jayaram on ‘Resistance to Irrisitable’, Tremaine Du Preez on ”Conquering Critical Challenges’, Sharon Connelly on ‘Dressing Like a Leader’, Kenneth Kwan on ‘Master Your Inner Self’ and Bob Mittelsdorf on ‘Managing Global Teams’. I will be sharing my latest research and practical applicatons of self-leadership and the whole action-packed day will be MC’d by the effervescent Shirley Taylor.
As the investment is minimal and a portion of profits go to Project Smile, can you afford to miss out on this unique event?
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I recently had a challenging situation in the office, with a colleague of mine. Because we had only been working together for a short time and our personalities were quite different, we ended up struggling in our communication: I preferred to be direct and to the point, she liked to also have a friendly chat and spend time getting to know each other.
Obviously, because of our differences in communication styles we ended up having some very heated conversations. We both felt upset and not understood by the other which created a tension in the office. Continue Reading »
Have you seen the TV series ‘Lie to Me’? Lie to Me is based on the work of Paul Ekman, a psychologist who has been a pioneer in the study of emotions and their relation to facial expressions. The show is compelling because the main character can read when people are lying and appears to have an almost supernatural ability to read minds.
If you are in any kind of relationship; whether it be work, social or romantic the ability to read the other person’s thoughts and emotions about a topic will improve communication providing the skill is used ethically. Continue Reading »
I have just returned to our home base of Singapore after a family trip to Berlin and Paris; here are a few things I learned whilst I was away:
